Safe rules.

First of all from the moment of answer to an ad or of the
encounter on virtual world be sure to remain anonymous.

Answering or publishing an ad don't give too much specific info of you
like cellular otr home phone numbers, even if itės your office telephone
where easy you could be traced, same the numbers of fax. Never give your
true name, address, or city where you live. In this kind of relations is
much better not to use your personal e-mail, you can use mail account
"WEB BASED" these are easy to obtain and free. The most famous are:
YAHOO, HOTMAIL but i reccomend to use The MAIL because they pay you
each mail you read. When you register yourself don't use your real name
example: if your real name is Burton Lisa try to be: < Venux@themail.com>.
Il Castello offer you a free webmail account, to open your mailbox
just click on button on the left: WEB MAIL .

Don't be impatient to reveal your real identity, and before to do
it be sure the person you are going to meet is the right one.

Before to meet a person in the real world ask some references and credits
try to contact people who knew the person in past and check if the info are
all the same coming from different person. Keep in mind only one negative
experience is more important of 3/4 good references. If the person you want
meet is well-know ask some people, the BDSM community is not too large
so you can easy find who can give you all infos you need.
This is not all the time the right way, you could meet a wonderful, intelligent
and safe person but difficultly you'll find someone who's able to say it because
many persons don't like to partecipate to BDSM event, club etc... because they
no want be recognized or act in public cause several reasons, in these cases you
have to try some cross-fire controls on BDSM internet sites, check the ads, forum
and newsgroups, ask in some BDSM chat rooms if someone knows that person.
Don't be scared to ask the telephone number, which city lives, profession etc...
some persons are real open-mind so they give you this infos without problem
this show you seriousness and honesty, remember in return give them same
confidence and respect the privacy and the personal infos you know of that
person. You can trust in such person more than other but there is no reason
to lower the guard. Be carefully!

If a Dom use the excuse you are a sub so you don't need to know the personal
infos of He/Her, because you have only to obey, kick the ass, surely is a stupid
and arrogant, you'll find easy a better one soon!

At the telephone.

Before calling be sure to remain anonymous. Coming from the virtual to the
telephone relation is a important step, because listening the voice you can
understand many things, state of mind, true interests, anxiety, fears, ability
decision and reliability of a person. If possible try to call instead of being
calls so avoid to reveal your number. Calling from a public telephone is a good
idea, so if the relation don't work out well you'll still have your privacy.

To reveal to the Dom personal infos is not an act
of deep submission but a deep act of stupidity.

If the Dom insists asking your personal informations you 're not forced to obey
if the Dom remind you you're a slave, you answer you're still a Domless so no
reason to obey. A real good Dom understand you well and wait the right time to
know these infos. In the case you already given your personal infos but you
still no have any of the Dom, it's a bad signal so stop it soon and look beyond.

Are you ready to meet Him/her in real world?

Before meeting the person try to know all possible infos like the name, last name
address, city and kind of job, telephone number etc... A serious person who has
decided to meet you don't have problems to let you know these information. If
the encounter happen to the city of the Dom try to arrive in advance even the
day before, but don't say that, jsut say you arrive the day after, you'll have
time in order to verify if the all infos of the person are true otherwise back home.
Have the encounter in a public place if you don't know the city choose a
famous place in the center where is crowded don't accept an encounter in private
or isolated places. If you arrived the day before visit the place of the encounter
and find the possible ways of escape, just in case the meeting is not work out well
a good excuse is going to rest-room and leave the place without be seen. Ask to a
friend to call you at least 2 times while you are with the Dom to check how the
meeting goin on, you establish a coded word, a simple word that alarms your
friend who can call the police or other persons to help you escape.

Never let the Dom know the hotel name or room number, but let know all to your
friend in order to find you easy and soon just in case of need. Rememeber even
if the person sound you a good one you can't ignore all safe rules, the Dom could
be a nice person in public but different in private.